Parents

I do not know if you have ever taken notice and really thought about it, but there are so many different kinds of relationships kids have with their parents. Being in college and living in a dorm has really opened my eyes to all of these different relationships. There are so many variations, it is kind of ridiculous.
First, you have the ‘I want to get as far away from my parents and really never talk to them again’ kind of kids. I have notice that the majority of these kids are all guys. Not to stereotype or to offend anyone, but I feel like all the guys have a noticeably different relationship with their parents. They always seem less connected and less likely to talk to their parents. I know some people, all guys, that have never been home since they have been at Virginia Tech. The ones I have actually talked to about it say they miss their friends but do not really miss their parents. I always wonder if these people will eventually realize how much they miss their parents, their family, and their home or if the way the feel now is always how they will feel. I really feel bad for these people in a way because they have missed out on the close relationship they could have had with their parents. I know the close relationship I have with mine is what gets me through most days.
Next, there is the ‘I like my parents and will go back and see them every once and a while’ kids. I have noticed this seems to be the majority of the people I know. They love their parents and have good relationships with them; however, they enjoy college and being on their own a little bit more. They enjoy not having their parents to tell them what to do and when to do it and if they are allowed to do. They mainly like their freedom. I think in the long run they will quickly realize how much they truly love their parents and will miss them more as time goes on.
Third we have the ‘I miss my mommy and daddy and want to go back home right now!’ kids. I have met only one of this type of person. They seem like the kind of kid, and I find absolutely nothing wrong with this, that instead of hanging out with their friends on the weekends, will hang out with their parents. They love their parents to death and have more fun with them than anyone else. These kids are kind of having trouble at school, being on their own and dealing with all the homesickness. They like where they are but would much rather be at home in their comfortable and familiar house. I can relate to these kids to an extent, because in a way I am like them. I miss my parents like crazy and I miss my home and my dog. They all mean the world to me and I would do anything to have the best of both worlds; living at Virginia Tech but somehow also living at home. Impossible I know, but it would be the perfect life.
Fourth there are the ‘I love my parents but hate my siblings therefore I will not go home so I do not have to deal with them’ kids. I think these people are so funny. They despise their brothers and sisters so much that they do not go home, ever. They love being with their parents but hate having to deal with the younger kids. It is hard for me to relate to the kind of person because I am an only child and I think having a younger brother or sister to go home to would be really cool.
Lastly there are the kids who ‘love their parents and love college the same amount’ and have found the balance of parents and school. These kids seem to be really close to their parents but are doing their best to branch out and enjoy their new and different life on their own. This is the next largest majority next to the ‘I like my parents and will go back and see them every once and a while’ kind of kids. It seems these people have mastered the what seems impossible task of managing both. I need to learn to do this a little better. I usually seem to favor my parents or school a little more than the other and neglect one. If it ends up being the parents I am neglecting, they sure let me know.
( I know this is not what my blog is about but it is just a different kind of relationship I have noticed in college)….but we have the ’I have been dating my boyfriend/girlfriend for one month and I am madly in love with him/her and I have to spend every moment of every weekend with them.’ I think these kind of people are ridiculous! I have a guy who lives down the hall from me. He has been dating a girl from home for one month…ONE MONTH! And he is apparently in love with her. My first question is why would you start dating someone after you get to college? I do not know I just find this a little bit weird. Next, I do not believe you can fall in love after one month. It is actually something I believe is lust, not love. Lastly, you are ruining your experience at college for someone you’ve dated a month. Kind of ridiculous. I understand wanting to be with your significant other but you can’t really sacrifice everything you have to gain at college for them. You once again have to find a balance.
So after explaining the different types of relationships I have noticed in college, what do you think you fall under? I personally think I am a combination of I miss my mommy and daddy and want to go back home right now!’ and ‘love their parents and love college the same amount.’